Rewrite Your Story: Transforming Limiting Beliefs with Deanna Moffitt | ANEW Body Insight Podcast Ep 42

Welcome to the ANEW Body Insight Podcast, your ultimate destination for transformative conversations on mental health, wellness, and personal growth. Hosted by Dr. Supatra Tovar, clinical psychologist, registered dietitian, fitness expert, and bestselling author of Deprogram Diet Culture, and Chantal Donnelly, physical therapist and author of Settled: How to Find Calm in a Stress-Inducing World, this podcast dives deep into empowering you to live a healthier, more balanced life.

In this episode, we welcome Deanna Moffitt, acclaimed coach, speaker, and author of The Rewrite. Deanna takes us on a journey of self-discovery as she reveals the transformative power of rewriting the limiting beliefs and stories we tell ourselves. Drawing on her personal experiences and expertise, she unpacks the three types of stories—past, present, and future—and shares actionable steps to identify and reshape these narratives. From the deeply ingrained "I am a burden" mindset to embracing a new identity as "I am a blessing," Deanna highlights how these shifts can profoundly impact our lives.

Discover how the body holds onto stories energetically and how practices like Qigong can help release stuck energy, fostering physical and emotional healing. Deanna also discusses her work as a leadership development coach, blending strategy with personal growth and energy tools to help individuals and organizations thrive.

Whether you’re looking to break free from limiting beliefs, enhance your mindfulness, or simply find inspiration, this episode is packed with wisdom and tools to help you evolve. Don’t miss this candid, heartfelt, and transformative conversation!

Here is Social Media channels Link about Deanna Moffitt's:https://deannamoffitt.com,  https://www.linkedin.com/in/deannamoffitt,  https://www.instagram.com/deannamoffitt/. 

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• How the stories we tell ourselves shape our behaviors and results.
• The three types of stories—historical, present, and future—and how they keep us stuck.
• Techniques to identify and rewrite limiting beliefs, including body-based approaches.
• The role of Qigong in shifting energy and fostering self-awareness.
• Insights on blending leadership development with personal growth.

Listen now and take the first step toward rewriting your story!

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Transcript

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Welcome to the ANEW Body Insight podcast,


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empowering and inspiring your journey to optimal health.


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Hosted by Dr. Supatra Tovar, clinical psychologist,


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registered dietitian, fitness expert and author of Deprogram Diet Culture:


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Rethink Your Relationship with Food, Heal Your Mind and Live a Diet-Free Life,


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and Chantal Donnelly, physical therapist and author of Settled:


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How to Find Calm in a Stress Inducing World.


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We follow our guests’ journey to optimal health,


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providing you with the keys to unlock your own wellness path.


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Tune in and evolve with us.


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Welcome
back to the ANEW Body Insight podcast.


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We are here
for the second half of our interview


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with coach and author and speaker
Deanna Moffitt.


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Very excited to have you here.


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Our first half of the episode,


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if you haven't heard,


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go back and listen.


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It's really interesting to hear how Deanna
became a coach and became an author.


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Some fun stuff there.


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And let's get in more into the book.


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I really want to talk about The Rewrite,
your book,


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this episode
and really kind of gives our listeners


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an idea of what that book’s about,
because I've read it and it's wonderful.


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So glad to have you back. 


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Thanks Chantal.


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Pleasure to be here.


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Both, Chantal and Supatra,
thank you so much.


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Thank you. So let's get into it.


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I know that your book is about the stories
we tell ourselves


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and how they can tend to keep us stuck,


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not moving forward in our lives.


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You have said that there are three
kinds of stories we tell ourselves.


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What are those three stories?


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Yeah, we usually tell ourselves
some great historical fiction.


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Some current day, present reality.


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Fictional reality.
And usually catastrophizing,


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or a future dystopian, future stories.


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what I recognize is that, you know, all,
all those different places


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we are telling ourselves stories
about our past that aren't serving us.


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We're telling stories
about our present moment.


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The thing that just happened
that isn't serving us.


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And we're certainly telling ourselves


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stories about what
we think the future is going to be,


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that we couldn't possibly know and


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definitely are not serving us.


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Mm-hmm.


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We'll go into that a little bit more.


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I relate to that with my clients.


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I feel like my clients are either
stuck in the past or the future or both.


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Yeah.


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And so what's like the historical story, normally?


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The historical,


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The little ones I usually
refer to that were created


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oftentimes before


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we even recognize, right? Before
the ages of seven, when we're in our child


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like minds or child status,
and where we can't process the world,


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we can't process reasoning
why people are reacting certain way.


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And oftentimes we're making the world
about us because at that age,


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it really is.


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And so even slight things
that we don't understand,


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we we can make about us.
Like a dad coming home


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and not wanting to play with you
when you're a kid and you don't realize


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that he's completely stressed, overworked,
worried about money, but in your head


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you're not worthy of his attention,
or, right?


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And we can create these stories
that have deep, are deeply embedded in us.


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I think my story that I grappled with
for a long time


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was I'm a burden or I'm alone.


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Those are two stories
that I really held on to for a long time.


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And, we often they're so deep


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in our subconscious,
like these stories that we created,


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often from either one big experience
that we may not even be able


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to point back to what it is,
or like driving on a gravel road.


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You know, just little pockmarks


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that happen over and over
that can create some dents in our lives.


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But those stories are the basis of our
behaviors, whether we know it or not.


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Right?


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So you can imagine someone who considers
themselves to be a burden for people,


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might be over pleasing or might get into
like codependent relationships really easy.


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I don't want to ask for anything
that I might need, because if I do,


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what will happen?


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Someone won't want me.


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And you know all of those stories.


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And when we really take a look
at the behaviors


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they're getting us, results that we don't want.


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One of the things we can do


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is go back and try and figure out
what is the story I’m telling myself.


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And there could be little offshoots
that could mean something else, right?


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But the core of it, your core story,
and they can be called,


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I think, Katherine Woodward
Thomas calls them the core wounds,


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the core wounded stories we have and,


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for a lot of people,


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those are really hard to identify.


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We can identify the results we're getting,
but those core stories, hard to see.


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And yet,


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they're always present with us.


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and I think they’re also,


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unless we really get
the body involved with those,


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I think this is one of those things
where we can do all the talking we want,


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but it really took me doing a lot of


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kind of whole


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body modalities for me to really shift
those, those stories.


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And then the present day


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stories, those are the ones that we get
emotionally hooked in.


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You know, someone cuts you off in traffic,
and, that idiot, I can't believe.


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And then all of a sudden,


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we're emotionally out
and we we we're out of our bodies almost.


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We're kind of
in this space, in this moment and reacting


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emotionally to, to a situation
that's happening, happening to us.


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And sometimes we can't even


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understand
that we're not reacting to this thing,


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that that story
is connected to something else.


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But we're in this space
of having over reactions.


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And the story then becomes, oh,
that idiot, I can't believe he’s,


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and you kind of feed.


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Or that dumb dumb.


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Yeah, that's it.


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(laughter)


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You keep on being, nice callback, Supatra.


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But we just feed that
and I, you know, it's so interesting


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how we can continue
to feed that emotional state.


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It's like feeding, you know,
little pellets to the bear at the zoo.


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You just keep feeding
it, feed it, feeding it, as opposed to


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recognizing,
oh, I don't like this feeling.


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I don't like being stressed out.


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I don't like the shoulders going up
and the stomach being knotted.


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But I'm still cycling around this.


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Again, how do I get back in my body
so I can let that story go?


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I remember when I first moved to Chicago
from Portland.


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Portland, Oregon.


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No one honks their horn here.


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I mean, literally,
you could stop at a stoplight for ten seconds,


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and the light's green
and no one honks their horn here.


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(laughter)


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So when I moved to Chicago,


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and that is a completely different
you know, people are honking their horns.


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You know,
it was totally different driving culture.


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And within about two weeks of driving


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the highways of Chicago,
I became Linda Blair in The Exorcist.


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Now, that's a
that was really only a reference


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that a certain number of people
are going to be listening.


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Look at that.


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But I was. Like,
but I watch, I watch The Bear.


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So yeah, I get it.


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(laughter)


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I just felt like my head was spinning,
I was spewing,


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I was cursing,
you know, all my fingers would go up.


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And I recognize, oh,
what am, I was really going into victim


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mode so quickly, and I had to catch myself
and go, oh, what is that?


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And what if I just started telling myself,
oh, they're probably in a hurry.


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Maybe their wife is pregnant.


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Oh, they're having to, you know, baby,
I whatever it is


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to allow me not to get emotionally hooked.


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That happened on The Bear. 


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Yeah, right?


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Spoiler alert, sorry.


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(laughter)


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And then the future


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stories are those stories that we create


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that are often the worse,


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you know, dystopian future of what
we think is possible for us.


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Or we have a situation and, you know,


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everything is going to go into chaos,
because


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of what that future looks like.


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Instead of just staying present,


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we have no possible
idea of what the future is like.


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And what if we could actually build
a muscle


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of creating a story
that might be positive,


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like it could be amazing,
it could be wonderful.


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And yet, boy, is that not a muscle that is
so atrophied and so weak in most of us


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because our stories about our future


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often go to a really dark place.


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They sure do, yeah.


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These stories that you're talking about,
whether they are,


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past, present, future,


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how did they get formed in general and and


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why is it that they become
so limiting?


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Is that just human nature?


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What what's what is that about?


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Yeah, I think it is.


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I think all of us I mean,


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I remember,


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I was at an event and I had an opportunity
to meet the CEO of Vitamix,


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and it was kind of this mastermind meeting
and so small enough


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that we all got to engage with her.


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And it was Vitamix at
the time, is a family, ran


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organization,
you know, quite obviously successful.


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But I remember asking, her name was Jody.


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And I remember asking,


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what does she do with her limiting beliefs
because she was obviously so successful


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and she just looked at me
like I was a strange person.


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And she said, limiting belief?


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What's that?


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(laughter)


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That’s awesome.


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Answered her question right there.


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Wow.


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(laughter)


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I had never heard of no no one,


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never, not have a limiting belief.


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I think most of us


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at some point or another will grapple
with this idea of a limiting belief.


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And again, I think there they are often,


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but certainly not always created in our,


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you know, most young and tender times.


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And they go deep into our subconscious,
but certainly they can go,


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you know, we can create them
and they can be recreated and again


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and again when we have experiences,
usually with people, I usually think that


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these stories are created in relationship
with other people.


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and which is why


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I often think that the stories,
if they're to


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change, are often have to be done
with in relationship with other people.


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You know, with a therapist, with a coach,
with someone to to affirm you


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as you are, that you know, to help you
see the possibility of a different story.


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It's a really hard thing
to recreate our stories, I believe,


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without someone being able
to kind of reflect back


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the truth of who you are
or help you to see the potential


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that's in front of you
with all the different data set points


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that are available to you.


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Well,


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that is
actually leading into my next question.


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What would be the first step
that someone can take


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to identify the story
that they need to have rewritten?


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I think, hey, I mean, it just always
is going to start with awareness, right?


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To be able to take a moment to reflect.
I always say people,


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people like to think
that we learn from experience.


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And I just think that's not true


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because we all know someone who is dated
the same kind of person over


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and over and over again.


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Me.


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Yeah, yeah, the same kind of experience
over and over,


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Not now.


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and over again.


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But right?


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It's not until you start reflecting
on that experience that you're like, oh,


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okay, here's what happens.


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This is the person I'm attracted to.


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This is what happens for me. Right?


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So it's really that
that ability to reflect on


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what is the experience I'm having that,


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that I don't want to have anymore.


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And sometimes it's even


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not just the experience outwardly,
but the experience inwardly as well.


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Like what's happening in my body.


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And Chantal has told, taught me
this word, interoception, right?


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What's happening in my body
and aware of it.


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Where, where is my pain?


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What is, where is my gut doing?


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What is my back and my muscles doing?


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Aware, It's always going to start with awareness.


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And I mean before awareness really,


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it just has to be a willingness.


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Like sometimes there has to be
a willingness to be aware


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because for some people


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it is, it can feel,


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kind of retraumatizing to go back
and you have to think about and work on,


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where were these stories created,
what happened to me, what what is going on?


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And.


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So I think the first bit of it


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is just a willingness
and maybe a courageousness,


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you know, a little, a little dose
of courage to be able to look at that


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and then working on awareness
of what's really going on.


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It definitely takes courage, yeah.


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And I think a lot of those limiting
beliefs are meant to protect us, initially.


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Yeah. Right?


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And so to let go of that guard,
that protection takes a lot of courage


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because we don't know
what's on the other side.


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And so I think that's partly why you have
to be willing and, and do the work.


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And I know in your book,
because I've read it a couple of times.


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(laughter)


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I know
in your book you talk about your own


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limit stories, your own narratives,


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and how you have changed
some of those stories personally.


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Can you tell us about some of those,
and maybe there's some new ones


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that have come up
since you've written the book?


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Oh, why yes I can.


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I mean, I think I told you,


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I had this story of I'm a burden,


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which was so busy,
I wasn't quite sure where that came up.


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And I started.


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I was working with a coach, and,


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I think for me, that story came out
almost before consciousness, right?


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I, I was adopted, and I think
somatically, or in my body,


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I had an understanding that there


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my birth mother could not, did not want me.


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And I couldn't imagine how
that challenging that was for her


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to carry a baby that she knew
she didn't want and to give that baby up.


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But in, you know, at some level,
my cellular being took


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that as an understanding of
I am a burden, you know, and,


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I for me, it was really, you know,
writing this book,


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going through the process and working
with a coach to bring it, quite honestly,


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to start shaping a different story


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of I'm a blessing


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Yes.


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(unintelligible)


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And, you know, it's


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the funny thing is, you know,
you get what you start asking for.


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And so I really worked with that.


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And what would it feel like?


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I mean, imagine this as both of you right


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now, if you had been walking around
with the story of I'm a burden,


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what that might feel like in your body,
and then try on a story of I'm a blessing


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and how does that feel differently?


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And I mean, I just remember thinking like,
well, man,


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if I could walk around the world


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like that, wouldn't
I just be lit up and be amazing?


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And so I really took that on.


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And then, in March,
my mom was diagnosed with cancer,


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and I came
and I was with her for three months.


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And I can't tell you how many times
her friends,


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would tell me, you know,
while I was helping my mom.


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Deanna, you are such a blessing.


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You are such a blessing.


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And I was like,
I want to be a burden.


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(laughter)


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There's just moments of like,
oh, this is hard work.


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I think I want to be a burden again.


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(laughter)


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No, but it's really.


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It's funny how I was like,
oh, there it is.


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That's the reflection of it back to me.


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And I can say honestly, Chantal, 
I love that you ask that question,


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I've been able
to rewrite the story of my mom


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and my relationship during this time,
and that was a real rewrite for me.


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And part of it was,
how do I show up differently


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from being a burden to being a blessing


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with her, or for myself as well?


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So I have a I have a few adoptees
in my practice, and that is,


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I think, the most common thought,
yeah, I am a burden or I am not wanted.


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Yeah for sure. Yes.


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And then how do you overcome that?


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I love changing that narrative into
I am a blessing. 


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Because, when you think about it, you did bless
another family with your presence.


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Your presence was wanted


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even if your birth mother was unable.


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Yeah, I can only imagine how difficult


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that might be for a mother
to give up their child.


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I don't think anyone's like here,
take my child.


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I think you think about it
every single day of your life.


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And so I think having that
in your mind as well,


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I bet my mom was, is thinking about me.


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I bet she's wondering how I'm doing.


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That can also help to lift you
out of that.


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I'm a burden narrative.


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Now tell me.


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Speaking of lifting yourself,
you have become


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a qigong instructor,
which is amazing.


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You started studying breathing techniques
and this movement practice called,


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How do


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these practices tie into rewriting your story?


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It is, came through,


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really the understanding


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that the stories are not just here,


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that the story has been lodged in my body.


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Right? Energetically
somewhere else as well.


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You know, qigong,
which is an ancient practice of kind


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of moving, meditative practice,
much like tai chi,


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is all about energy.


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You know, chi is energy
and gong is work or play.


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And in really understanding that


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the stories
are stuck energy in our bodies


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and how do you move that energy


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or free up that energy or, you know,
transform it into something else?


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Became I became really fascinated by that.


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And when I came up here to help my mom,


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I had I had previously helped my dad,


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go through a cancer diagnosis
and end up passing.


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And I when I said, yes, I'm coming up,


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I also said, I'm not going to do it
the same way


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because I completely lost myself in my
dad's illness and I didn't have any tools.


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I didn't know how to take care of myself
during all that.


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And so when I was up here


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and during one of the most stressful times
that I was going through,


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and she had some health things
that really escalated very quickly


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and I was struggling
and I had other things I wanted to do.


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You know, I packed a bag for five days,


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and I ended up being here
for three months,


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and I had a life
that I was supposed to be leading


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outside of this. There's a question
I asked myself, and that was,


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what in all of this is for me?


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And believing
that even the terrible things


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that we go through, if I can look at those
and say, well, these are for me as well,


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what am I learning?


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What am I set to do?


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What am I set to learn? And all this?


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And man, I'm going to tell you Supatra, 
the moment I asked that question,


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my whole energy shifted.


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Yes.


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And I started looking for
the things that were here for me.


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And, you know,


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I started


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investigating so many different
healing modalities and


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trying on in sampling and being playful
with that and understanding


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that there may be a version
two of a rewrite.


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To say this is one way to rewrite
your stories is up here.


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But there's another way
to rewrite these stories completely


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in your body and energetically as well.


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Beautiful.


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I love that.


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I don't know if our listeners know
the story, but Deanna and I actually


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wrote our books at the same time
with the same publishing company.


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I did not know this. Yes.


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And so we would get on Zoom
and write together,


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and then after the writing session,
we would read to each other,


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and she was reading all of the mindset,
information that was in her beautiful book.


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And I would be reading all
about the body stuff.


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And so it's funny
because we've learned from each other


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how important, I learned from her,
how important the mind


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is, and she's learned for me
how important the body is.


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And I think together we really sort of
helped each other in that way.


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I'm going to tell you so much.


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I could not have gotten through that
writing process without Chantal.


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Oh, I bet.


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Ditto.


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Same thing.


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Chantal is a blessing.


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I've known Chantal for now,


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Gosh, 21 years
and every time I see her, every time


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I'm in her presence,
I always think what a blessing she is.


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And I have learned so much
about the body too, from her.


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So that's proud of both of you
for being in your bodies.


00:22:06:00 - 00:22:07:02
Very proud of you.


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You help us.


00:22:09:05 - 00:22:11:10
Yeah, thanks my friend. Really, truly.


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Works the other way around, too.


00:22:12:18 - 00:22:15:18
So that's great from both of you.


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All right.


00:22:16:00 - 00:22:19:00
Now that we've patted
each other on the back.


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(laughter)


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Can you tell us, Deanna, how


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what kind of services do offer people?
If you could let everybody know


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and then how they can get
in touch with you if they're interested.


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Well it's interesting
I think things are shifting for me.


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And I'm not quite sure what services
I'm going to be providing.


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So, listen, things are always up in the air.


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I do provide coaching


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and certainly leadership development,
but it's been interesting to me


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the last few deliveries that I've done
with leadership development is bringing in


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more personal development
and energy tools.


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Which are completely unexpected
and so needed and well received.


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So if you are working for an organization
and you think you want leadership


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development, yes, I can do the strategy
and I can do the feedback


00:23:02:22 - 00:23:03:14
and all that stuff.


00:23:03:14 - 00:23:08:12
But man, what I am finding now, especially
with things shifting so quickly,


00:23:09:02 - 00:23:13:01
is that our leaders really need,
as you say, get back in their bodies.


00:23:13:10 - 00:23:14:07
Yes.


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They need to be able to question
their thoughts


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and they need to be able to stay present
to what is right here in front of them.


00:23:21:16 - 00:23:24:04
So it's a really interesting shift
that I'm in right now.


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But I offer coaching
services, of course. And,


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they can reach me at my website at


00:23:30:01 - 00:23:34:07
Deanna Moffitt dot com, all those double letters
that are in my name.


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I'm also on Instagram.


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And, you find my book on Amazon, The Rewrite.


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Wonderful, I love this.


00:23:43:04 - 00:23:44:15
I think you're actually right.


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I just gave a talk
for a bunch of insurance agents,


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and I had a whole list of things,
you know, it could have been how to,


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you know, present yourself better
to what they wanted was mindfulness.


00:23:56:01 - 00:23:57:04
Yes.


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They loved it too.


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Like all of the comments were,
oh my gosh, I needed this so much today.


00:24:04:19 - 00:24:06:13
I feel my body,


00:24:06:13 - 00:24:08:12
was one of the comments.


00:24:08:12 - 00:24:13:06
And I think really kind of helping leaders shift


00:24:13:19 - 00:24:18:11
that thinking into being present,
like you were talking about before,


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not just in improv,
but you know, to understand your story,


00:24:23:20 - 00:24:28:08
but also to get better at anything
you do to be mindful.


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It does mean to be present and aware and
it's not just up here, it's in your body.


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And I think it's vital for people


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to really start to incorporate that
because it can make them,


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they realize that they can be better at sales


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because they're more mindful and
they're more present with their people.


00:24:46:19 - 00:24:49:22
So I'm supporting you on that, get out there.


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Get these people in their bodies, do it.


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Get it in their bodies,


00:24:52:19 - 00:24:57:00
and also just being present to their own,
our own intuitive abilities.


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I think we've


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we've lost that for some reason.


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Our ability to be intuitive
and read the energy,


00:25:04:06 - 00:25:06:05
not only our own energy, but,


00:25:06:05 - 00:25:08:10
you know, the energy of the people
that are in the room.


00:25:08:10 - 00:25:12:02
Can I be intuitive enough to that,
to experience someone else's energy


00:25:12:08 - 00:25:15:20
or to sit and be present
and and feel and hear


00:25:15:20 - 00:25:19:23
the messages that are coming up for me,
not just top down, but, you know,


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my body is always talking to me as well
and not just, you know,


00:25:25:08 - 00:25:28:08
not, I was gonna say,
not just through farts and burps, but


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and really energetically.


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Those too. Those too.


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(laughter)


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Like the messages that you get


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or if you're willing to listen to them.


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I think it's pretty profound.


00:25:40:16 - 00:25:41:09
Oh, man.


00:25:41:09 - 00:25:42:02
Wow.


00:25:42:15 - 00:25:45:12
We would love to pick your brain
for more hours,


00:25:45:12 - 00:25:50:17
but sadly, we are out of time for this
half of this podcast.


00:25:50:17 - 00:25:53:17
But we would love for you
to come back at any time.


00:25:53:23 - 00:25:57:08
You radiate positivity,


00:25:57:13 - 00:26:00:09
joy, just this goodness


00:26:00:09 - 00:26:05:07
and we definitely need more of that,
especially during these times.


00:26:05:07 - 00:26:08:12
So we're very grateful
for the work that you're doing,


00:26:08:21 - 00:26:11:19
and we're grateful for everyone
for listening in.


00:26:11:19 - 00:26:15:20
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the ANEW Body Insight podcast.


00:26:16:04 - 00:26:21:02
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00:26:21:13 - 00:26:22:14
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00:26:24:14 - 00:26:27:24
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